Cocoa Brown is realizing her dreams.
The stand-up comic, TV personality and divorced mother says her vision board holds a wish list of numerous aspirations that are now coming true, particularly being cast in a Tyler Perry film.
Brown embraced her role as “Lytia” in Perry’s THE SINGLE MOMS CLUB, a struggling unmarried parent who’s trying desperately to prevent her youngest son from following in the footsteps of his older brothers: drugs and incarceration.
Lytia’s also being wooed by Branson (Terry Crews), one of the finest men in town and she won’t give him the time of day; up to the task Branson won’t take “no” for an answer.
I spent time in Los Angeles with Cocoa Brown, a Virginia native, to discuss her dreams and her realities–
Sandra Varner/Talk2SV: In this film role, we see you play hard to get, avoiding Branson, a masculine hunk that many would see as the man of their dreams; have you met the man of your dreams?
Cocoa Brown: I have not. I thought I did because I was married and had waited until I reached age 36, 37 to do so. Unfortunately, it (he) wasn’t the right one but I have no regrets; out of the bull crap came the blessing. I have a beautiful little boy who is my angel so I can never regret what I went through. Even in the midst of whatever me and his father dealt with I will always be thankful for my little boy. So no, I haven’t met the man of my dreams yet; I believe he is out there, I do. I feel I’m a good woman and I know I can be a good wife because I was and I hope I get a second chance.
Cocoa: I think one of the biggest stigmas about single moms is that you couldn’t cut it as a wife or you couldn’t make it as a wife, you’re just a baby momma. I hate that and thankfully, this movie shows different elements to being a single mother: they come in all shapes and sizes, backgrounds, races, and circumstances of how they became a single mother. Single moms are no one’s scarlet letter; we’re not a failure. We are actually a triumph because we take the bull by the horns and do what we have to do to raise our babies.
Talk2SV: There’s a line you deliver in the film that goes, “sometimes single mothers just need help, they just need a break.” Have you been the friend on the other side of that coin providing help to a single mother?
Cocoa: Oh yes. For a long time, because I didn’t have my son until I was 40, I have six God kids and I embraced that responsibility as if I was their mom. Then I became a mother figure to many of the young comics and my friends. I’m a combination of mama and big sis. I’ve always been a nurturer, always wanted to take care of people, I think it’s just that southern breeding…you come to my house I’m going to feed you, I’m going to make sure you’re comfortable. Baby what you need, that’s me, I’m calling everybody sugar, honey, baby.
I want people to see that single mothers are something to be triumphed. Most of us do want to find love and want to have that perfect white, picket fence, two-point-three kids, the husband and a station wagon. But, sometimes it’s just not in God’s plan at the time that we want it. I’m just saying; don’t criticize the single mom because we are some amazing creatures raising babies by ourselves.
Talk2SV: Now that your star is rising higher and higher, has celebrity shifted your focus on life?
Cocoa: Um…you know, it’s made me a little bit more cautious in the sense of how many people I let close to me, more so, my son. Protecting my son more than the celebrity and the fame; once I became a mother and especially mother of a boy, I know I’m the first woman that he’s going to love. Everything that I do is going to shape and mold him especially in the woman he chooses one day. I have to set a precedent; I have to be that blueprint. Fame adds to it but my son has more of an influence on how I conduct myself and how I represent myself. What I put out there and how I take all this in because he keeps me grounded. I always say my little boy, that’s my manager, that’s my agent.